Healing from Betrayal

If you’re reading this, you’ve likely been hurt in a way that feels deeply personal. Being hurt by someone you love or trust—a partner, friend or family member—has a unique sting. It doesn’t just bruise your heart, it can shake your sense of safety, trust and sometimes your identity.

Let Yourself Feel

Whether you felt betrayed by a friend who vanished when you needed them the most, you learned you were the only one excluded from a close friend’s gathering, you realized someone you cherish deeply valued your connections over your relationship or your kindness was exploited for personal gain—these wounds leave a mark. Acknowledging and honoring the emotions that arise is the first step toward healing.

You might feel waves of anger one moment and deep sadness the next. Perhaps you might blame yourself for trusting the way that you did or feel foolish for letting certain people into your life to begin with. Whatever feelings arise, let yourself feel them and find a safe space to express your emotions—journaling, speaking with someone trustworthy, screaming into a pillow or just crying it out. If you feel isolated, know that you are not alone in that feeling and you are not wrong for wanting understanding and care.

Reflect on How Much You Gave

The pain of betrayal often stems from the effort, care and love you poured into the relationship. Perhaps you were their constant supporter, always standing up for them. Maybe you helped them financially during tough times or offered a compassionate ear whenever they needed it. When someone disregards the care you gave by treating you in a certain way, it can feel like a gut punch.

If they failed to value what you gave or took it for granted, that doesn’t diminish the gift you provided or make you stupid for having done so. While it’s possible they simply lacked awareness or the ability to reciprocate, their actions don’t define you. Recognize that you showed up because of who you are and that is a strength to carry forward.

The Power of Letting Go

Letting go doesn’t mean excusing what happened. It means freeing yourself from the weight of anger and resentment, allowing more space for peace. Here are a few steps to start:

• Release the need for an apology that may never come.

• Accept that you can’t change the past.

• Redirect your energy to what you can control—your healing, growth and choices.

Letting go isn’t about accepting what they did. It’s about reclaiming your emotional freedom. Forgiveness, when it feels right, can be an act of self-liberation. You can forgive someone without giving them a place in your life again.

For a no-nonsense take on this concept, listen to this podcast: Mel Robbins’ Let Them Theory. It offers a fresh perspective on accepting others as they are and focusing on your own freedom.

Recognize Patterns

Reflect on whether this type of betrayal is part of a recurring dynamic in your life. Are there patterns such as overgiving or trusting too quickly? Understanding these patterns isn’t about blaming yourself; it’s about recognizing opportunities for growth.

• Was I seeking validation or avoiding loneliness?

• Did I ignore red flags?

• Was I caught in a cycle of rescuing others?

Write these observations down. This process can help you heal underlying patterns and break free from dynamics that no longer serve you.

For example, you may recognize a tendency to overextend yourself emotionally, giving more than you receive. Or you might see how charm and flattery have led you to overlook red flags in potential partners. These insights empower you to protect your peace moving forward.

Protect Your Peace

Boundaries can feel hard to set, especially when they involve people you care about, but protecting your peace is necessary and ultimately empowering.

• What boundaries do I need to set to feel more balanced?

• Am I holding on to resentments or grudges that I need to let go of?

• Do I feel respected and supported by the people I spend the most time with?

• Are there relationships that no longer align with my values or well-being?

• What brings me joy and am I making enough time for it?

If others get defensive about your boundaries, it says a lot about them. Genuine people who care how you feel will take responsibility for their actions and make an effort to make things right. Some may ignore you altogether, letting their pride keep them silent, while manipulators may deflect or try to draw you back into unhealthy patterns. If people drift away, let them (I know, it’s not easy). You owe no one an explanation for protecting your well-being. The urge to make others love or accept you highlights the inner work and healing you need to do for yourself.

Final Thoughts

You have the strength to demand better from those in your life and most importantly to honor yourself in whatever way feels right for you. If they are no longer in alignment with you, let that show you who you are. Their behavior or choices are in fact a gift, allowing you to realize your own precious qualities, whether that’s having integrity, an open-heart or deep sense of compassion. It can also show you how you have grown and evolved to be the person you are today and the incident acted as nudge, however harsh to encourage you to find more like-minded people who are better aligned with you.

Bridging Astrology, Coaching and Personal growth

Astrology: Your Cosmic Map for Life

Astrology is an incredible tool to use alongside coaching. It can help illuminate what might be holding you back and how you can move forward. Struggling in relationships? Feeling stuck in your career? Wondering why things feel “off”? Astrology can help us map these questions and work toward solutions especially when we can’t figure them out on our own. Your birth chart is like a personal map and it goes far beyond your sun sign. While your sun sign might explain some parts of your personality, it’s only one tiny piece of the puzzle. Your chart includes all the planets, their positions and how they interact, forming the blueprint of who you are.

If astrology gives us the map, coaching helps us figure out how to navigate it. Astrology might highlight a fear of being vulnerable, while coaching provides practical tools to address this—whether that’s ways of improving communication, setting boundaries or finding fresh ideas to connect with others— It’s a beautiful marriage of two complementary practices. For example, if relationships never seem to work out, we might start traditionally—exploring patterns from childhood or recurring dynamics in your choices of partners. Then we can take it further by looking at your birth chart. This unique snapshot of the moment you were born can reveal struggles you might not even realize, like challenging aspects to Venus for instance. These insights often shed light on why certain cycles repeat and how to break free of them.

Astrology also extends to the physical world through Astrocartography, which maps the planetary influences in your chart onto the globe. This technique shows how different locations carry specific energies for you. For example, you might feel confident and empowered near your Sun line in Paris, experience heightened romance and creativity along your Venus line in Singapore or face challenges and growth near your Saturn line in London.

Have you ever felt inexplicably drawn to a place—or found that a city just didn’t vibe with you? Astrocartography often has the answer. It’s particularly useful for relocation decisions, planning travel or even understanding why certain places have played a significant role in your life. Let’s say your Jupiter line runs through a city. That place might bring abundance, optimism and expansion. Meanwhile, a Mars line might inspire ambition and action but could also feel intense or overwhelming. These insights can be incredibly helpful for making practical decisions about where to focus your energy. There’s another dimension when we add Paran lines, which make the locational experience more nuanced. For example, I’m currently living on my Pluto line, which has been both challenging and isolating. However, it’s also a powerful place for making significant changes and reevaluating relationships—exactly what I’m experiencing right now. My Mercury Paran lines cross Pluto here, which enhance my clarity of thought, so while I may not be communicating with others as much in person, I’m channeling that energy into writing. If you’ve ever felt unsettled in a particular place, understanding these influences might be the motivation you need to make a move or at the very least, use them to your advantage.

Astrology isn’t about fate—it’s about possibilities. Paired with coaching, it’s like having a cosmic roadmap and a co-pilot to help you navigate it. Whether you’re figuring out love, career or where to call home, astrology brings clarity and coaching turns that clarity into action. Together, they help you connect the dots and move forward with confidence and purpose.